Valentine Day's Love for Singles

It’s that day again. V-Day.  So many look forward to this day in anticipation of how they will be celebrated.  Others plan weeks in advance on how to surprise and show their partner how much they love them.  Others hope with all their might that someone will save them from the loneliness and embarrassment of not having someone who loves them, or worse  - they do have someone who disappoints them.

What is sad to me, is that we all do have someone who loves us and whom we love.  It ‘s a wonderful time to show appreciation for those people in our lives.  The retailers have made it a day about romance and couples, yet you have the power to create this day to have meaning in any way you choose.

Love is the connection to all!  Love connects you to your heart, mind, health, wealth, and passions, family, friends, co-workers and most especially to your source which connects you to all the above and more.

Love is the air we breathe, the essence of our being. Love has the power to heal, to forgive, to succeed, and to connect differences into seeing the unity. Love begins within. To me love is synonymous with joy. Love IS a joyful heart, a joyful mind, a joyful body, and a joyful soul.

Here’s the thing that so many of has missed – We don’t have to FIND love. We ARE Love. LOVE IS always here, if you allow yourself to see it and feel it. Unfortunately we have learned to value our worthiness to be loved through the experiences we’ve had, the words that we’ve heard, and we base our own love on the misguided judgments of others outside of ourselves.

Many of us have been taught that love hurts, and is judgmental. We’ve had an epidemic of unhealthy love from our churches, teachers, leaders, and parents. This was not intentional. People always do the best they can with who they are and what they have learned. I don’t offer this in criticism, but in understanding and acceptance. We have learned about love from people who taught it through their expression.  The good news is that we can learn a new way to love and be loved.

So, it is not so much about finding love, as it is about uncovering the love that is already there. The beautiful, brilliant expressive LOVE that is your birthright is calling to you to accept your value, your worth, and your joy! It takes time, energy, and intention, and it is worth every bit of it. Your whole life will change when you truly tap into your own source of love. Shift the relationship with you first, and watch all your relationships improve, with your children, parents, co-workers, clients your siblings and your friends. Everything begins with you and it is transformed with love.

This Valentine’s Day I invite you to reconnect with love in all its forms. Yes, it is a frustrating time to be single with so much emphasis on couples and romance.  Yet is an opportunity for you, as a single woman.

You can create a loving ritual for yourself or for you and your single friends.  You could also celebrate with your children or nieces and nephews with the intention of expressing love and gratitude and reaching out to another, not with defeat of being alone, but with joy at knowing love in your life. How special they would feel to be so valued in a special way and you will be giving and receiving love in a very authentic way.

Let Valentine’s Day be a time to express love and gratitude to all that touch your life.  Reach out to other singles or people who are lonely.  Set a date with you and your friends and create a vision of the perfect Valentine’s Day with your ideal mate. Celebrate the couples in your life that you admire and who have relationships that inspire you.  Rather than feeling left out or steeping in the energy of emptiness and lack, tap into the joy of what you see in them.

Write a love letter to your future partner and soul mate, inviting him into your life, thanking him for all that you share together.  Write it in the present tense.  Describe the day you have just had, how you feel when you are with him. Seal it in an envelope and put it somewhere and forget about it.  However, come back to that feeling of love, joy, companionship, partnership, romance, whatever it is that you truly desire in a relationship and want to experience in life with the man who is worth waiting for.

Valentine’s Day is a great day to begin to create the experience of love and relationship that you are ready to invite in.   Your subconscious mind does not know the difference between if it happening or not, it only knows what you feed it.   So, feed your mind what you want to create in your life as if it is already here.

Have your single girl friends over and discuss the great tips from one of these books, again raising your energy of love by focusing on that which you want to create in your life.  You might enjoy giving one as a gift to someone special for Valentine’s Day, or giving one to yourself as a gift. Any of the books that are listed are beautiful expressions of love, offer great relationship advice, and are a wonderful alternative to a card. A new favorite of mine (which is not listed) is “The Mastery of Love” by Don Miguel Ruiz.

Here are some other ideas you can do alone or in celebration or with friends:

• Create a video expressing your love with pictures and your own words.
• Make a CD with songs that inspire you
• Visit people in a nursing home who have no family.
• Donate your time at a local charity.
• Join a class to improve your relationship and dating skills or something of interest to you.

Remember whatever you do, let in be in the spirit of love and giving – even if to yourself!  The intention with which you do something is as important as what you do.  Be present in the spirit and generosity of love whether you spend time alone or with others, and Cupid will reward you.